tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-232811637669592992.post3229470696976488967..comments2024-03-28T03:17:53.945-04:00Comments on In the Service of Clio: Blog XIII (13): Marriage and Grad SchoolNick Sarantakeshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08071764464888181459noreply@blogger.comBlogger11125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-232811637669592992.post-39299471316867894432011-03-04T08:37:48.621-05:002011-03-04T08:37:48.621-05:00It is a really big decision to choose between prio...It is a really big decision to choose between prioritizing grad school over marriage. Most especially if the couple already has kids. Most of the time the Mom chooses motherhood and push aside grad school in another time. Which ever they choose, these couples should be given enough support to fulfill their grad school dreams.Pam at Health Insurance Minnesotahttp://www.healthcaresite.org/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-232811637669592992.post-27374149110890217082010-12-15T07:01:17.326-05:002010-12-15T07:01:17.326-05:00A very long but very interesting article. It is di...A very long but very interesting article. It is difficult to strike a balance between career and family and this article has opened my eyes.overcome affairhttp://saveyourmarriage.co.uknoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-232811637669592992.post-61168608585719514712010-09-20T03:03:30.339-04:002010-09-20T03:03:30.339-04:00That leaves a small window of roughly ten years fo...That leaves a small window of roughly ten years for having children. On the other hand, becoming a mother before finishing graduate school extends the amount of time the student will be a scholar and—statistically speaking—reduces the likelihood they will finish.James Morgan - Puritan Financial Advisorhttp://www.puritanfinancialcommunity.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-232811637669592992.post-73561185576701928592010-08-30T12:21:16.414-04:002010-08-30T12:21:16.414-04:00Hi Nicholas,
These are some great topics. I think...Hi Nicholas,<br /><br />These are some great topics. I think you have to write a book on this topic.Beth Adams - The Save Marriage Ladyhttp://www.articlesbase.com/marriage-articles/save-my-marriage-today-review-read-this-before-you-buy-save-my-marriage-today-3154190.htmlnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-232811637669592992.post-25744427612853487982010-08-29T22:59:50.267-04:002010-08-29T22:59:50.267-04:00I agree, balancing parenting and working are way d...I agree, balancing parenting and working are way difficult to handle but managing your time may be of help, it works for me and i think others as well. But don't forget your time for your wife, you have to include them on anything you plan for your marriage life to work.Migs from married to your bosshttp://www.marriedtoyourboss.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-232811637669592992.post-24536344122087336672010-08-18T17:06:52.161-04:002010-08-18T17:06:52.161-04:00Many professional businesses are now allowing flex...Many professional businesses are now allowing flex hour schedules which can greatly enhance family life among professional couples. One spouse can work hours around the other for a better family life.<br /><br />Sometimes a flex schedule can mean working at home during regular work hours. This could also be an option for professional couples with a family.<a href="http://squidoo.com/fixmarriage1">Fix Your Marriage</a>http://squidoo.com/fixmarriage1noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-232811637669592992.post-18992495177604032142010-08-11T03:24:21.260-04:002010-08-11T03:24:21.260-04:00I appreciate it very much, at least I know from it...I appreciate it very much, at least I know from it someone is reading the contents I have here.Agenzia hostess firenzehttp://www.eyeonmodel.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-232811637669592992.post-62672825166564729982010-08-02T20:09:34.301-04:002010-08-02T20:09:34.301-04:00Dealing with professional work life and family lif...Dealing with professional work life and family life can often be difficult, but both parents sitting down and talking about what the best alternatives are for them and their children will always be best. <br /><br />Quality day care or tapping into family resources may assist in both parents achieving what they require in their professional lives and yet have a quality family life in conjunction with it.Fix marriagehttp://squidoo.com/fixmarriage1noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-232811637669592992.post-55946795332743188092010-08-02T20:01:13.693-04:002010-08-02T20:01:13.693-04:00While having 2 scholars as parents may make it dif...While having 2 scholars as parents may make it difficult to balance work and children, like any other couple, parents make it work however they can. Having an extended family member or nanny in the home may benefit the parents and the children. One working full-time and the other part-time may work for other parents.<br /><br />When it's important and both parents are in agreement, they will always be able to make it work.Michellehttp://squidoo.com/fixmarriage1noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-232811637669592992.post-11946151614434415572010-03-24T12:01:01.193-04:002010-03-24T12:01:01.193-04:00I like this information, I would like read more ab...I like this information, I would like read more about this, is very interesting! I like investigate about this topic!before marriagehttp://www.beforemarriage.org/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-232811637669592992.post-54275930583345976282009-07-11T17:17:19.536-04:002009-07-11T17:17:19.536-04:00Nick – books could be written on this topic. No, b...Nick – books could be written on this topic. No, books should be written on this topic! Everyone has their own story and like the other commentator suggested, so many of these issues affect everyone....balancing life and career crosses many lines. When I started out in grad school I was already married. But I asked a prominent female historian how to manage children. She suggested waiting until I was at the dissertation stage, then after having kids and finishing my writing (at the same time!), I could look for a job. That way there would be no “gaps” in my resume. It sounded nice and neat, but as usual, things did not go as planned. As students we saw too many marriages on the rocks, add kids and you had a recipe for heartbreak and stress. We decided to wait, or better to say, we just avoided the whole topic. <br /> Then one day I woke up and realized I had no time left to wait. I was surprised, but also panicked. Would all our indecision leave us childless? Thankfully, it did not. Since I had waited so long, in effect chosen my AMA (advanced maternal age) status, I now decided I was not going to work part-time and miss my kids’ childhood. And without any family nearby, it seemed to make sense that one of us focus on work and the other stay home with the kids. Yes, I still love my own work, plug away at it, and yes, I’ll take at least some credit for my husband’s success. Nobody sees any of this of course. <br /> Now, as I look to our future, I wonder about some of the larger issues. How are universities handling family life? Our own experience at LSU is mixed. As for spousal hires, I just do not know enough to comment. LSU does have some great family-oriented programs, for youth, gymnastics, summer camps, Halloween and Christmas specials, AgMagic, daycare, and more. Although the K-12 school on campus is nationally recognized, it is elitist and hard to get into. So obviously, there is a lot to build on, but I would love to see a more consistent alternative, weekly or bi-weekly clubs or activities, to get to know others on campus who have similar concerns for education, entertainment for kids, etc.<br /> Your blog suggested our history profession could do better when dealing with work-life balance and especially in talking to grad students about it. Where do we start? Some disciplines are now assigning essays on work-life balance. Does ours? It is important to make these assignments more than just token. Maybe we should really start with our journals, and ask several key ones to include a short section on work-life balance to cover all sorts of issues, basic entertainment, kids (education, health issues on campus, etc.), mental health, and beyond. And maybe the inaugural section could even include a special recognition or monetary prize – to give weight to its seriousness. <br /> I like your suggestion that our profession has to become more open to the need to balance work and life, and indeed in some instances help facilitate the two. But honestly I cringe at the thought of waiting for that to happen. I don’t have that kind of time anymore. I want to re-enter the teaching and academic world in the near future. And I understand that I do have to “re-enter” while some moms have chosen never to leave, sticking it out with daycare, etc. While I don’t want to be given credit for “staying home”, I don’t want to worry anymore about “gaps” in my resume. My life, family and intellectual, has no gaps! No ones’ does–at least no one who seriously devoted so much of their life to Clio. - Lisa NamikasAnonymousnoreply@blogger.com